What comes next?

Being in a family who suffers addiction, we worry constantly about what and when will the next crisis be, expecting it any day, every day. We suffer from trying desperately to help our addict who refuses any help. We suffer the loss of watching our loved one slip away as if abducted from right before our eyes, like in a dream when your are screaming in a room full of people but no one Can hear you, or even notices. We struggle to maintain order and control , that in most cases we never had. We love unconditionally, hoping for change. 

No one understands unconditional love like a family who suffers from addiction. To love someone despite the most unbearable conditions. 

We have to change our thoughts, as much as the addict themselves. We need to reframe the way we think. Instead of expecting  crisis, expect peace. Believe that only the best outcome is possible with all your heart until only the best is what you achieve. Trust. 

What lesson have I learned at this point in our battle against addiction? I've learned that we can all make a choice for ourselves as to when will begin our recovery. That we don't have to wait for our addict to make that decision, because for some of us, that may be a long way off, or what if it never happens? We have to make a decision to enjoy our moments in life for none of us know how many moments we have. We have to choose recovery for ourselves and set an example for our addicts and hope to lead them through our own example of taking control of our lives and our decision to stop being a victim.